I have always believed we have beautiful unique gifts, something special that we can offer the world. These are our strengths, our traits (the wild, weird and the wonderful) and they are driven by our love and passion. They make us who we are. What’s more exciting is that we have unique gifts that are yet to be discovered and unveiled to the world.
I sometimes call these gifts our smarts, especially when talking with my boys. My boys, at some stage have come home and said they are not good at anything or smart enough like some of the other kids at school. We talk about all their unique gifts/smarts, explaining that just because you are not good at a certain subject doesn’t mean that you are not smart and have wonderful unique gifts to share with the world. We forget to celebrate who we are.
As adults we struggle with exactly the same feelings, we become so focused on what is expected, seeking approval from others, to fit in and be “normal”. As a result, we tend to lose sight of our unique gifts and instead we focus on the doing rather than being who we truly are.
Before starting this journey, I felt because I had not been in the paid workforce for some time (raising my boys, volunteering) that I hadn’t any gifts that would be of any use let alone being able to set up my own business. I had to ask myself a question that we all struggle with and that is “What are my unique gifts? I found this extremely difficult to answer when talking to my life coach at the time Naomi Arnold. I was very quick to talk about my flaws and lack of gifts instead of focusing on what my beautiful unique gifts are. I wasn’t celebrating me and my uniqueness.
I have always felt a little different and knew in my heart that I wanted to pursue something that wasn’t necessarily considered the norm. It’s not an easy process, it takes time, but with self-care, curiosity and love, you will begin to see just how beautiful your unique gifts are and how they can help you achieve the life you have dreamt of.
I have learnt we have unique gifts that can both be our weakness and our strength. I am very sensitive and can take things to heart, but that is what makes me very nurturing and loving. Another unique gift of mine is my kindness and the need to help others. I would do anything to help people (yep I am a recovering people pleaser), put their needs before my own. Sadly, these gifts have been used against me in the past. But these unique gifts are what makes me, Me! I love to help people, to make them feel so very special that is who I am. This journey is about working on how I can do this in a heartfelt me kind of way.
Weird unique gifts are subject to interpretation and may not seem weird at all. That is uniqueness right there, don’t you just love that. One of my weird unique gifts is, I talk with my hands and sometimes do not stop talking. I become very animated when I talk about something that I am passionate about. This is weird considering I am a classic introvert. But this passion and enthusiasm is what makes me unique. I can transform from being a shy, self-conscious, quiet introvert, to being a confident, lively extrovert. According to my boys it can be quite hilarious too. So, I am embracing this weird gift of mine with open arms literally and allowing the world to see more of my passionate, sensitive, kind and loving self.
It’s by no means an easy process, you certainly do not wake up one morning, magically embracing your weird, wild and wonderful gifts. I am still a work in progress but what I have learnt so far is it takes time, patience, self-love, self-belief and an open kind heart. When you can do this boy does the magic happen. We begin embracing our beautiful unique gifts and celebrating our authentic self, everything begins to flow and work in harmony. We start to be curious, have clarity and self-confidence to take the next steps to follow our dreams. We celebrate who we are.
Celebrate and embrace your unique gifts, the wild, weird and the wonderful. When you do not only will you shine, the world around you will shine too.